With the development of society, human interaction between the external substances more intensively, but the soul of communication is a corresponding decrease in the prevalence of mental illness increase, primary and secondary mental health problems are not optimistic about . "Psychological orphans" phenomenon is one of them. The so-called "psychological orphan" refers to the stages of school-age children and adolescents in the psychological self-enclosed, free collective atmosphere, being afraid to contacts, difficult to integrate into social life characteristics. "Psychological orphans" are actually not sound a psychological phenomenon.
A child's psychological education as a "forgotten corner"
At present, most parents of primary school students on family education, science, not to mention to their children's educational methods are also mostly follow the older tradition, or through the mass media to obtain. Such parents in the education of their children, often take two extremes: First, "Succeed" "looking woman into a phoenix" eager, tighten their belts for their children to strive for the material conditions of their children study questions pressing in the sea; Second, re-raise is not re-teach, re-physically healthy, light mental health; heavy material inputs, light spirit of the inputs. So, ignored the children's minds, feelings, inner world of the needs of the child's psychological education has become the "forgotten corner." Some parents, for their careers, and no time to look after their children, or to send their children entrusted to grandparents or nannies employed care, arrange their own time with their children with little communication, chat with work, so that children and their parents are easier to produce "strange sense "and" sense of distance "so that their own children in the formation of a reluctant heart of hearts open to the people's self-enclosed world.
In addition, families with problems caused by psychological problems to their children is also very serious. According to household surveys, the family is not complete, or parental separation, or family economic burden, the parents run around all day to make ends meet to attend to their children, such as family environment, children grow up are often more prone to depression, irritability , self-esteem, withdrawal, apathy, hatred, and other unhealthy psychological.
As parents to understand children and youth physical, psychological knowledge, and in accordance with their physical, psychological laws to deal with things. To oppose the "stick-type", "indulgent type" way of family education, and advocate of "democracy-type" family education. Investigation and Analysis, the children like to "friend" type of parents, not like "pastor-style", "mentoring" parents. Parents should find ways to create conditions to provide for their children, partners, contacts with the small time and space. Little way back from school pick, so that children and other kids go hand in hand; weekends and holidays for their children to invite junior partner came to our house to play, encourage children to use leisure time with his classmates and a small telephone exchange partners. Through the sect, to expand the scope of contacts and learn the experience of dealing with a variety of people to eliminate the loneliness of a person alone.
The family is the child's life a never graduated from school, parents are children's first teachers, educate their children is the bounden duty of parents. Parents must not be due to personal feelings, right and wrong while ignoring their children home. Quarrelsome parents to learn to reason, busy socialize as far as possible to return home early, the economy is not well-off child-rearing are also advised not to sacrifice time to make money.